On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’ And Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.’ His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’
This passage has always fascinated me, as it shows that Jesus was indeed quite human. He really doesn’t seem to get that he should help out–it’s his mother who has the empathy and good sense at this moment. Isn’t it interesting that Jesus’ mother has the last word, and what she says, goes?
Thich Nhat Hanh describes true charity in this way:
When you accidentally strike your finger with a hammer, you take care of the injury immediately. The right hand does not say to the left hand, “I am doing charitable work for you.” It just does whatever it can to help-giving first aid, compassion, and concern. This is the spirit of “nonself”.
Or, perhaps it’s more simple than that, and Ram Dass intuited what really happened in this passage when he observed:
If you think you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your family.